My bf follows alot of girls on socials from highschool which is fine im cool with friends who are girls and i trust him but most of the girls only post half naked shit and like he will unfollow them but i feel like im being controlling and hes annoyed because im always bitching about a chick hes following but idk i feel like its disrespectful to follow people who post like that

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My bf follows alot of girls on socials from highschool which is fine im cool with friends who are girls and i trust him but most of the girls only post half naked shit and like he will unfollow them but i feel like im being controlling and hes annoyed because im always bitching about a chick hes following but idk i feel like its disrespectful to follow people who post like that

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My bf follows alot of girls on socials from highschool which is fine im cool with friends who are girls and i trust him but most of the girls only post half naked shit and like he will unfollow them but i feel like im being controlling and hes annoyed because im always bitching about a chick hes following but idk i feel like its disrespectful to follow people who post like that
It feels like a never ending thing i have to be like who is this unfollow them
skylinechili
if you have tell him to unfollow them or you don’t like it, it kinda seems like you don’t trust him. Like people post provocative pictures sometimes
skylinechili
And sometimes you scroll right passed it
no i trust him i just dont think if ur in a relationship ur whole feed should be bitches in bikinis
shouldnt be
juuul
How long have you guys dated?
like 6 months
juuul
Oh. Ah. Yeah idk. Not much is invest not much is lost.
juuul
Up to you.
i just feel like it’s disrespectful in my opinion
London
how does he react when you ask him to unfollow the accounts
juuul
Well it depends what your boundaries are
juuul
You can try to communicate
juuul
But if you guys aren’t willing to meet a compromise….. end it
he unfollows anyone and cares he doesnt make a big deal unless im asking like everyday who someone is or why hes following them
London
yeah, if he has no issue with unfollowing them then you may be overthinking
London
n he may of followed them accounts from before you got together n not realzied
well he did follow them way before me but ive asked him to not follow girls who post naked pics and it seems like anytime i look theres just some he missed and it makes me feel like he doesnt care about my feelings
like i should be able to ask once and he spends ten minutes just looking and does it right
London
have you spoke to him about it recently and asked him why he follows them
i.swallowed
Be reasonable about it
he said because they went to highschool or were friends with them at some point before me
i.swallowed
Do you want him having friends ?
i.swallowed
Do you have guy friends ?
London
yeah i think you may be overthinking it
juuul
Relationships are full of compromising. I’d say, communicate how you feel, and be willing to hear him out as well.
yeah he has girl friends and stuff but like none of these girls he talks to
they just like went to grade school and post slutty shit
i.swallowed
Do they like him ?
idk they dont talk to him so i assume no
London
you need to speak to him about how your feeling otherwise it’ll constantly be on your mind
juuul
Have you had problems like this in the past?
juuul
Like in other relationships?
London
but from my perspective I don’t think it’s anything to worry about due to him unfollowing straight away if you ask with no issue
i.swallowed
i mean it’s not there fault that your bf is liking their pictures unless they like his pictures back
my ex before him diddnt have instagram so no i havent
he doesnt like their pics
he’s respectful of me
i just dont like the idea of him following all kinds of naked girls
i.swallowed
Tell him that
i do
London
what does he say
i.swallowed
And what does he say
but sometimes i still find some and its annoying to keep asking
he does it he unfollows them no problem
juuul
Apart from this…. Is everything else good?
yeah hes super honest and he doesnt delete texts he tells me if girls message him and he’s respectful
London
it’s natural to overthink but if he unfollows them no problem then it seems like he understands
but like i just feel like having to ask him so many times like he doesnt care
London
sounds like he genuinely cares abt u
juuul
Yeah I think you might be at risk of coming off as insecure if you keep it up
i am insecure lol
juuul
I am not trying to sound harsh I swear, comes from a place of love.
no i understand u i appreciate u
juuul
It is good that your self aware.
juuul
A lot of people deny it
London
from an outside perspective I feel like your own insecurities may be leading you to feel like this, and therefore making you over think this situaiton
idk nobody else gets jealous about social media on here??
juuul
I mean I think most people do haha
London
of course it’s natural but if he is unfollowing with no problem then I wouldn’t worry to much don’t stress girl!
juuul
But you it is like an unwritten rule to not show it
juuul
Unless it is incredibly blatant situation
juuul
A*
i overthink snything i can possible lol
London
honestly same but we have to get rid of them thought
juuul
That is normal
i wanted to be single for awhile after my naracastic ex bf and i found my soulmate
I know i wasnt ready for a relationship and i have problems and hes supportive of it
London
I think you need to focus on yourself at the same time don’t get to wrapped up in the relationship
i just feel so bad
London
and highering your self esteem
London
don’t feel bad at all it’s completely normal
i hate men lol
London
shahha same
juuul
…..
juuul
Lol
lmaoo
London
take some you time
i will and i do❤️
London
put your self first always!
its hard to process a 3 year long relationship of abuse when u dont fully understand what happened
London
I’m so sorry whatever you had to go through you didn’t deserve any of it!
he deserved it tho i burned all his shit
i took everything but the tv he bought but i took the power cord so he cant use it
take notes
juuul
Dang, bye bye worldly possessions.
London
just make sure you look after yourself because past truma can build up in your head
it is a problem for me i dont know how to deal with it honestly
London
have you considered therapy
pretty much the reason i am here
London
is your family aware of how your feeling rn
juuul
Have you seen a therapist?
juuul
Like to try to talk through your traumatic events
ive tried reaching out to a therapist but never followed up
juuul
I’d say follow up, it helps speed of the recovery process
London
I agree
juuul
You want to make sure you get get back to the baseline you as soon as possible
i can’t really talk to anyone about it with ny family
they are judgemental about my love life
London
Is there a friend you could speak to?
juuul
A therapist will make it clear what your doing is normal, and what your doing is abnormal
juuul
It will help you gain you perspective
yeah i know i need to thank u loves
London
anytime, look after yourself it’ll get better and you won’t feel like this forever i promise🤍
juuul
I don’t really like talking to friends, not everyone is prepared to make sound advice on certain topics
juuul
Especially when it comes to mental health.
London
yeah I know , was just a suggestion x
thanks queens

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