I’m emotionally abusive. Not to the extreme just in the manner of saying I’m leaving my girlfriend (now ex, of course) when I’m overwhelmed in arguments. It’s not a conscious decision. It’s like if you’ve ever felt super overwhelmed and you just blurt everything in your head out. That’s me. I get overwhelmed in arguments super easily. I just get my feelings hurt and I get defensive. Then I’m trying to process my partners feelings and it all becomes so much in my head. I’ve joined therapy but the therapist doesn’t seem to be an expert in the area. I’ve bought the book “the emotionally abusive relationship” and have been reading it. Trying to understand myself and my actions. I have never wanted to hurt anyone. I have broke down and cried often over the way I am. I just want to be the amazing person I know I can be. Outside of arguments I’m told I’m an amazing, loving, sweet, considerate boyfriend. In arguments im told im like a whole different person. I think my biggest issues in relationships stem from my anger issues. It makes it hard to communicate in a healthy manner, it makes it hard to think and understand the situation, and of course the lack of self control. I just wanted to share and I’m open to advice as well.

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I’m emotionally abusive. Not to the extreme just in the manner of saying I’m leaving my girlfriend (now ex, of course) when I’m overwhelmed in arguments. It’s not a conscious decision. It’s like if you’ve ever felt super overwhelmed and you just blurt everything in your head out. That’s me. I get overwhelmed in arguments super easily. I just get my feelings hurt and I get defensive. Then I’m trying to process my partners feelings and it all becomes so much in my head. I’ve joined therapy but the therapist doesn’t seem to be an expert in the area. I’ve bought the book “the emotionally abusive relationship” and have been reading it. Trying to understand myself and my actions. I have never wanted to hurt anyone. I have broke down and cried often over the way I am. I just want to be the amazing person I know I can be. Outside of arguments I’m told I’m an amazing, loving, sweet, considerate boyfriend. In arguments im told im like a whole different person. I think my biggest issues in relationships stem from my anger issues. It makes it hard to communicate in a healthy manner, it makes it hard to think and understand the situation, and of course the lack of self control. I just wanted to share and I’m open to advice as well.

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I’m emotionally abusive. Not to the extreme just in the manner of saying I’m leaving my girlfriend (now ex, of course) when I’m overwhelmed in arguments. It’s not a conscious decision. It’s like if you’ve ever felt super overwhelmed and you just blurt everything in your head out. That’s me. I get overwhelmed in arguments super easily. I just get my feelings hurt and I get defensive. Then I’m trying to process my partners feelings and it all becomes so much in my head. I’ve joined therapy but the therapist doesn’t seem to be an expert in the area. I’ve bought the book “the emotionally abusive relationship” and have been reading it. Trying to understand myself and my actions. I have never wanted to hurt anyone. I have broke down and cried often over the way I am. I just want to be the amazing person I know I can be. Outside of arguments I’m told I’m an amazing, loving, sweet, considerate boyfriend. In arguments im told im like a whole different person. I think my biggest issues in relationships stem from my anger issues. It makes it hard to communicate in a healthy manner, it makes it hard to think and understand the situation, and of course the lack of self control. I just wanted to share and I’m open to advice as well.
helloiamagiraffe
I’m sorry
orionsbeltbag
Great thing to accept & acknowledge your flaws so u can start growing.
Thank you.
orionsbeltbag
I’m a woman & I learned that I am “slightly” abusive w an ex as well. I got physical w him at times when my buttons were pushed & THAT’S NEVER OK!
orionsbeltbag
Of course! Welcome. I haven’t finishd reading everything…
I was told I had anger issues awhile ago by my now ex but I didn’t understand the extent of it. Made it to almost two months without a fight but the last fight was what did it.
orionsbeltbag
Two months then one BIG one?
orionsbeltbag
That’s really sad.
orionsbeltbag
😢
Yea. It wasnt even super big. I think she was just done for awhile and I gave her the excuse
orionsbeltbag
My ex broke up w me eventually… I was slightly emotionally abusive & physical sometimes… not later on but he left…
orionsbeltbag
She initiated the separation?
People leave. It hurts really bad and I’m trying not to reach out. I said I was leaving and she wouldn’t let me take it back
I tried to talk to her about it but she’s mad and won’t talk to me
orionsbeltbag
I’m going thru a similar thing w a different guy now & I’ve worked on myself a lot & he’s the one that’s off… & I’m rly to the point of just leaving.
We were actually supposed to move in together this week
orionsbeltbag
I feel like I should hav long time ago… but I know how it is & I truly care about him not just as BF but as friend.
orionsbeltbag
How old r u guys?
orionsbeltbag
I kno ur name from previous posts…
I think it takes a big push to make people see they need change. I told my ma I would like for this to have been just a break and not a break up cause I see the full extent of it now. I’m 23. She’s 20. We were together a year
orionsbeltbag
It sucks to hear after some posts… u responses to my posts u’re going thru this!
orionsbeltbag
Oh gosh.
orionsbeltbag
I was almost in exactly the same spot…
orionsbeltbag
My ex broke up w me in a similar situation. We were together a year & I think I was 20 or something & he was like 24 or 23
It’s ok. It’s been only two weeks so I’m hoping we still have time. Woah that is pretty close.
orionsbeltbag
We were never to the point to move in, I think I was 19. I’m not trying to move in around that age bc of how I was raised but…
orionsbeltbag
Anyway..
orionsbeltbag
I’m 34 now.
orionsbeltbag
I taught me a lot.
Yea this week was supposed to be it. Then we had plans to get engaged
orionsbeltbag
I’m going thru a similar thing w a guy… sort of.
If only we could have survived a little longer
orionsbeltbag
He’s the one that’s abusive… & when a woman leaves & don’t want u back. She usually means it.
orionsbeltbag
I’m really checking out… from him.
Yea I feel that.
orionsbeltbag
Oh no! Even engagement?
orionsbeltbag
I didn’t go that far w either relationship…
Yea we had the ring picked out and everything
I loved her to the fullest
Just can’t keep
My mouth shut
orionsbeltbag
Oh no… a ring ready? This must hurt worse than what I went thru
orionsbeltbag
Mouth gets us in trouble.
Hopefully she’ll want to try again cause
I’m really putting the work in to be better.
orionsbeltbag
My mouth learned a lot myself.
orionsbeltbag
We need to always humble ourselves. I learned that from being better & reading the bible a bit.
She said the night we broke up that she loved me and she believes I’m her soul mate that she just wanted me to get better but then she started acting anger and mean. Now she don’t wanna talk to me so I’m hoping it’s anger that will fade. I agree
orionsbeltbag
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orionsbeltbag
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Agreed!
orionsbeltbag
U need to grow. That’s really awesome she said those for u to get better!
Yea so hopefully she meant them
orionsbeltbag
Idk why I never replied to ur response.
orionsbeltbag
We hav a DM.
Lol it’s ok. It happens
orionsbeltbag
I’d like to ask u things as well…
I’ll switch to the dms
orionsbeltbag
Do u think we could talk real quick?
Yea I’ll dm you

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