Hi my name is Abby, I just broke up with my boy friend of 3+ year who was very controlling and toxic . I’ve been with him since I was 13 so I can’t imagine life without him and I don’t know how to deal with it. I’d love to talk to someone about it and get it all out . Thank you 🤍

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Hi my name is Abby, I just broke up with my boy friend of 3+ year who was very controlling and toxic . I’ve been with him since I was 13 so I can’t imagine life without him and I don’t know how to deal with it. I’d love to talk to someone about it and get it all out . Thank you 🤍

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Hi my name is Abby, I just broke up with my boy friend of 3+ year who was very controlling and toxic . I’ve been with him since I was 13 so I can’t imagine life without him and I don’t know how to deal with it. I’d love to talk to someone about it and get it all out . Thank you 🤍
orionsbeltbag
Hi Abby!!!
newyorkcity
hey abby i’m going through something super similar we are here for you
orionsbeltbag
How old was he?
Hi nice to meat you
orionsbeltbag
U’re 16 now.
He’s almost 19
Heah
orionsbeltbag
That’s not ok.
user1296571
I’m so sorry I’m going through that right now and I know how much it sucks
orionsbeltbag
My dad was a narcissist & he ruined my mom’s life by cheating many times & getting other women pregnant…
I like in the yk the legal age is 16 and he was only just 16 so
But thank you
orionsbeltbag
Anyway, just know you are in a healing path. ❤️‍🩹
Thank you
orionsbeltbag
Of course.
orionsbeltbag
🙂
orionsbeltbag
I like to talk out my emotions as well so I completely understand you.
user1296571
I’m proud of you. I know breaking up with someone who is such a big part of your life is extremely hard.
It’s just hard because we would be otp 24/7 even fall asleep otp
We have broken up many times but we always get back together
orionsbeltbag
Give yourself time to “breathe”. Know u’ve bn hurt & reassure urself that it will turn out for the better.
And even if I don’t want to I find myself txting him at night
When I’m alone
orionsbeltbag
Handle urself w gentleness at this time. ❤️
So I’m her to distract myself
__a_dark_knight__
Don’t text him
Thank you your right
orionsbeltbag
Do it!!!
It’s easy to say
orionsbeltbag
It took me many years to do it myself.
&do what?
orionsbeltbag
As a matter of fact I have a similar situation…
user1296571
Yeah it’s hard but don’t talk or engage with him. You need to focus on yourself
__a_dark_knight__
You have to watch a super long tv series
__a_dark_knight__
And get food
orionsbeltbag
I find myself txtng a guy… I was practically dating.
__a_dark_knight__
Delete their number rn
Yeahhh that’s sounds good
I have blocked him on everything
__a_dark_knight__
Eliminate all distractions
He was rlly controlling
__a_dark_knight__
Old pictures
__a_dark_knight__
Old text messages
orionsbeltbag
Controlling is just another term for manipulation.
orionsbeltbag
I was also toxic myself years ago w a male ex…
__a_dark_knight__
Burn all the evidence
newyorkcity
you are going to get through this
He would always tell me what to wear and I couldn’t wear lipstick or talk to boys as friends or even smile
newyorkcity
now do all those thibgs
orionsbeltbag
I have done a lot of work so I know if he doesn’t change for himself he won’t do it for you.
__a_dark_knight__
Wow that’s stupid
newyorkcity
go out wear lipstick
newyorkcity
buy new clothes
I wanted him to change because I love him
He’s my first boyfriend
newyorkcity
it’s you now live for you not him
He did get better but it’s still bad
orionsbeltbag
He’s controlling u bc he has deep insecurities. You want a guy MAN enough to face to fears.
Ik I rlly need to
__a_dark_knight__
I’d be like honey do whatever want as long as you’re happy that’s what matters!
__a_dark_knight__
You
Exactly
__a_dark_knight__
But seriously get ice cream rn
Thts what I wanted from hkm
__a_dark_knight__
Or sushi
I wish
I don’t have any
orionsbeltbag
Not go around his fears/insecurities & manipulate ppl.
I love sushiiii
__a_dark_knight__
Me too!
This rlly helps thanks guys
__a_dark_knight__
Of course!
I just need to let go
newyorkcity
it takes time but you will heal
__a_dark_knight__
Just gotta keep yourself busy
orionsbeltbag
All the best! U got this! 🤗😘🤗😘🤗😘
__a_dark_knight__
You deserve happiness!
He would get mad at every little thing I do and I couldn’t go a day without an argument
He also would black mail me
In all sorts of way
__a_dark_knight__
The right man will treat you better!
He would with pictures of me and with secrets
__a_dark_knight__
My ex tried to do the same
newyorkcity
that’s not cool i’m so sorry that happened
He even through my sexual assault in the argument today
__a_dark_knight__
I’m a guy
Ig that was the last straw
__a_dark_knight__
And that’s never happened to me before
Because I trusted telling him this
__a_dark_knight__
I deleted all my social media accounts
marvic
Not good
__a_dark_knight__
I might change my real name
Why?
__a_dark_knight__
Cause this person said they would bury me.
I remember I got my hair done yesterday and I was excited to see him reacted nd he just said it’s nice
Ik that’s small but it hurt
& really
That’s horrible
orionsbeltbag
Why did it hurt?
orionsbeltbag
What happend w sexual harrasment? He did it to u?
Because I wanted him to hype me up and tell me how it looks amazing
& not him someone else
He just brang it up to upset me
As an insult
orionsbeltbag
Bc he doesn’t want you to go on & be ur best self bc if he HYPE U UP he knows he can’t manipulate you
orionsbeltbag
anymore & u’ll realize u r beautiful w so many guys better than him chasing you.
__a_dark_knight__
sounds like this relationship did you bad.
He was always so worried about other boys
More than he would be worried and me
orionsbeltbag
BOUNDARIES. He can’t fucking insult to ur assault.
orionsbeltbag
What a shithead!
He made me not go to my school prom
Because guys would be ther
__a_dark_knight__
But rn this is a good time to practice boundaries for yourself. To learn how to protect yourself more from these types of men
orionsbeltbag
U should call him out OR ANYONE when they make u feel less/insult or anything to that nature.
__a_dark_knight__
I never been to prom
orionsbeltbag
Why can’t he take u to prom then?
I do but I love him and he knows how to manipulate me
By speaking softly all of a sudden instead of shouting and calling me names
And apologising
__a_dark_knight__
Rn definitely focus on yourself and don’t text him.
But I need to look past that
I wont
orionsbeltbag
Also, I have sexual harrasment xperience myself. What he did to INSULT u is like putting ACID on a wound. Don’t let him HURT u more by allowing him.
Exactly
I was doing so good to at forgetting
__a_dark_knight__
Me too
And he threw it in my face
__a_dark_knight__
Wow I’m so sorry
It’s okay I just need to stop running back to him
But how are you guys doing
I’ve been talking about me for the whole time
__a_dark_knight__
Don’t Abby you can find so much better!
I hope so
I’m just scared of being alone ig
aubz_12
You will never be alone.
__a_dark_knight__
You will just focus on yourself learn a new skill! Get into a new hobby! Hang with friends!
Thank yoy
__a_dark_knight__
Become comfortable with being with yourself!
Yeahhh I really want to go on this trip at college for charity
It’s to Cambodia and we get to teach children and learn and experience the culture and poverty
__a_dark_knight__
You got this! It just takes practice and time. And it’s okay to grieve this relationship it’s part of healing!
And help them learn and feel valued
__a_dark_knight__
That’s awesome!!!
I feel like that would be so fun to experiece
__a_dark_knight__
If helping others keep you going! Then keep doing it!
I will thank you
__a_dark_knight__
I’m on here to inspire good and hope
It’ll be a nice distraction to
orionsbeltbag
That’s a great idea.
It’ll be a nice distraction to
orionsbeltbag
U’ll learn more about your strengths immersing urself to Cambodia.
Exactly I can’t wait
orionsbeltbag
Yes, a distraction but do so w purpose.
I love to travel
&of course
I always wanted to go on this trip
orionsbeltbag
If u can’t do it yet or bc u’re feeling lonely I don’t recommend going.
What do you mean
orionsbeltbag
Sit w urself & know that wherever u r even at home alone u are loved.
Thank you I appreciate that
My mum really helps a lot she’s like a therapist 😂
orionsbeltbag
Also, yes, that’s the only thing you need to not to run back to him.
Ik I have to be strong
Whenever I miss him I’ll come on this app
orionsbeltbag
U hav taken him back many times so he knows u will always bend to his manipulation.
He expects me to come back
orionsbeltbag
Be strong! I know U got this!!! 🙂
But I also don’t want him to be sad
orionsbeltbag
Yes, I’m in a similar situation…
Because when we got back he was a mess when we broke uo
orionsbeltbag
I am surprising him by showing him he needs to win me over.
And I feel bad
That’s good
orionsbeltbag
Let’s be honest, he’s broken from the beginning from being his insecure self. 2 broken pieces are hardly ever whole together…
__a_dark_knight__
I understand
Yeah
It just hurts tho I don’t want him to be sad because I love him and care for him
__a_dark_knight__
You’re going to get through this!
orionsbeltbag
No offense but misery loves company & he wants u to be broken like him so he has company.
That’s what makes me go back
orionsbeltbag
I did this for myself & I’m still not married…
orionsbeltbag
I’m 34 now.
orionsbeltbag
I had similar issues. I was scared to be alone until I realized God never abandons me even at my worst. 🥰
__a_dark_knight__
I’m 27
__a_dark_knight__
You’re going to get through it. Find things to keep yourself busy
I wanna text him
__a_dark_knight__
Don’t
orionsbeltbag
At least wait for him first, Abby.
Okay
orionsbeltbag
It will practice your self-control.
orionsbeltbag
After that keep practicing it.
Ur right
orionsbeltbag
Guys don’t like it when women are eager for their attention.
__a_dark_knight__
Self control
__a_dark_knight__
Is the key
orionsbeltbag
They look us cheap when we behave that way.
Yeah ik he always comes to me first usually
__a_dark_knight__
Yea I don’t want to be cheap
But it’s not like I’m dating him it’s a long term relationship
__a_dark_knight__
I’m expensive
orionsbeltbag
And then u run 10 miles bc he did right???
orionsbeltbag
Practice self-restraint. 😇
I’m no
Um
orionsbeltbag
Ok, so don’t msg. him if u seem to be aware he’ll do it again.
Yeah I wont
He can come to me
orionsbeltbag
Then maybe he just isn’t really good for you & waiting for his text is not a good idea afterall.
Nd if he wants to get back shii will change if not then bye
orionsbeltbag
Nothing has changed.
orionsbeltbag
U broke up many times.
orionsbeltbag
How many more breakups until he breaks his cycle?
No I mean he will have to change nd sort himself out
orionsbeltbag
He won’t.
He’s done it once
He has before but he’s slipping back
__a_dark_knight__
Okay Chris Evans shows up to your door, what would you do now?
He had a bad past with old relationships
They all cheated and made him like that
He is a great person but he just need to fix himself first
And learn to trust
orionsbeltbag
They cheated bc he isn’t being a boyfriend.
No that was when he was normal
orionsbeltbag
He only found a way thru u to make himself feel good that’s why he controls you.
His ex treated him horribly
__a_dark_knight__
Oh damn we got ourselves a serious situation
He’s not like that he just complicated
orionsbeltbag
No one will treat you bad until u give then permission from the beginning.
He’s not some evil person he just have a lot of issues he needs to work through
orionsbeltbag
Love isn’t suppose to be complicated.
orionsbeltbag
It might be blind but it’s not complicated.
Loves always complicated
__a_dark_knight__
Then you haven’t found the right person
orionsbeltbag
It has ups & downs but not toxic.
Ik so until he sorts his shii out we not together
orionsbeltbag
Being a manipulator is evil.
I’m gonna go to sleep now guys
Goodbye 👋🏻

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