don’t know how to feel better. i’m in such a complicated situation rn with an ex and idk how to make myself happy and not rely on him.

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don’t know how to feel better. i’m in such a complicated situation rn with an ex and idk how to make myself happy and not rely on him.

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don’t know how to feel better. i’m in such a complicated situation rn with an ex and idk how to make myself happy and not rely on him.
Chicago
Chica girl
Chicago
Focus on you
Chicago
Focus on what YOU want
but i want him and that’s the thing people don’t understand
and i know i’m not what he wants but idk how to get rid of him
Chicago
If he loved you he would want the best for you, and self love is the best for you
ur right
it’s just hard
Chicago
I know this is said so many times, but if you keep reading the same chapter you aren’t going to have anything new or any you haven’t already experien
Chicago
Experienced
angelkay
Hi
darlingxoxo
Give yourself the love that he should give you.
Chicago
Its hard it really is
Chicago
When you are comfortable with someone it is hard to do something uncomfortable
Chicago
I completely get it
Chicago
Give yourself a chance to have better
yea…how do you stop being sad?
Chicago
It just slowly gets better
Chicago
I was with my ex for 3 years and i thought the pain would never go away but it does and i found someone so much better which i thought i could NEVER
darlingxoxo
Allow yourself to grieve for the loss of the relationship otherwise you’ll bottle it up and it will prolong the process
do u have any self-love tips? sorry if i sound annoying just don’t really know what to do anymore…he was my first love and i loved him so much so idk
Chicago
You aren’t annoying, everyone needs support!
darlingxoxo
Treat yourself like you’d treat someone you love.
darlingxoxo
For example if you’re feeling not pretty you’d tell someone you love that they’re so amazing and they’re beyond gorgeous
Chicago
What i have done is journal what im grateful for even the smallest things on my hardest days
Chicago
If you tell yourself the things you feel you need strengthening in, you will eventually start feeling it
Chicago
Look in the mirror, and say i am worth it i am worthy of love i am beautiful i can do this
Chicago
Reassure yourself
some days i feel like i’m fine without him and others. i’m like wow i can’t do anything without him…is that normal?
thank you guys so much
darlingxoxo
My friend has BPD and she goes through that
oh
darlingxoxo
Do you have any hobbies or things you enjoy doingV
darlingxoxo
I think he might’ve taken up all of the time you would’ve spent on yourself so without him you don’t know what to do
yes that. is exactly what happened
sassie143
Hey I’m heather
xx.me.xx
Fake it til you make it (putting on a fake smile can scientifically improve mood and do things/think that really makes you happy.
sassie143
Yes absolutely!
and im still waiting on him to want me and im not getting any body new or talking to anybody new ( ik i don’t need anyone) bc im scared if i do he wont want to get with me even thiught he’s free and doing whatever he wants
xx.me.xx
Also sounds like you need to write a list about things you love about yourself.
you guys are so helpful thank you so much
sassie143
Just take care of u and the rest will follow
darlingxoxo
Yeah for sure don’t talk to anyone romantically if you’re not over your ex it’ll get messy
darlingxoxo
But you still should make friends and stuff
darlingxoxo
Start back doing things you enjoyed
i have a good group of friends but they are all away at school right now
darlingxoxo
That must be difficult
yea o go and visit them a lot and they come home slot as well
xx.me.xx
That’s grad to can still video chat and travel for a day to them or they travel to you. You can do group Netflix watching.
darlingxoxo
You guys broke up for a reason so you deserve better and should be that better person for yourself
yea he cheated on me and i was still begging him to want me
it doesn’t make any sense
darlingxoxo
NOOOO YOU DESERVE SO MUCH BETTERRRR
he was so fine and is still so fine after and i jsut don’t understand how i can love someone so much still and be so sad about them even after everything they have done
i know i do but i just want him to be better for me but it’s not like that
darlingxoxo
You crave his validation. But him cheating on you has nothing to do with you
xx.me.xx
I’m sry girl. I understand it’s hard but you’ll come out strong and even more gorgeous just wait. Self growth is coming!! It’s gonna be a new chapter
darlingxoxo
Love makes us have rose colored glasses in.
yes
it’s just so difficult and i want to be happy again
i used to be such a happy person and i was so happy with him and now all i do is sleep
thank you guys for listening…this is the first time i’ve told people this
darlingxoxo
I still had feelings for my ex for so long. But it was an unhealthy amount so I just saw it as an obsession and not love. That’s helped me personally
darlingxoxo
Trama bond
did you just tell urself everyday it’s not love it’s obsession?
yes i think that’s what i have with him.
darlingxoxo
Just realizing the feeling aren’t real it was just a coping mechanism
darlingxoxo
That helped
okay
thank you so much
darlingxoxo
No problem! You helped me yesterday so I’m just returning the favor 🙂

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October 14, 2021Uncategorizedpatthehumanbetter, dont, just, know, love, much, still, things, want, yourself



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